With many divorcing couples, custody of their children tends to become one of the biggest issues. Both parents may seek full custody, either out of genuine desire to be with the kids or, all too often, a desire to feel like they've "won" in the divorce. This is a misguided approach to child custody. Ideally, both you and your spouse will understanding the importance of an ongoing relationship with the other and do your best to facilitate a healthy situation.
The sooner you accept the idea that you will need to have continuing contact with your spouse and work with him or her to parent your children, the easier the whole process will be. Courts typically do not award sole custody to one parent unless there are extenuating circumstances. You need to take steps to repair the way you relate with your spouse during and after your divorce to ensure you can co-parent together successfully.
